A Burning Ceremony: to Empower Yourself to Let Go and Move On
Updated: Nov 18, 2021
As we celebrated the Fall Full Moon, yesterday (and the rest of this week), it is an excellent time to RELEASE what no longer serves you and your highest purpose/calling. It’s a good time to let go of negative thoughts, behaviors, patterns- even relationships.
Recently, I had to relearn how important it is to let go. Emotions can prevent us from both being present and enjoying life. Heavy emotions are paralyzing. Being consumed by terrible events, feeling the weight of the world on our shoulders, replaying arguments, blaming or criticizing others, and judging ourselves and others harshly when things don’t work out is not helpful to any situation and leads to illness.
Letting go of heavy emotions, blame, grudges and past hurt is good for the heart and soul. Letting go frees your energy and liberates the mind for better decision making and conscious actions. The process of letting go, gives us the space to express, channel and release heavy emotions, thoughts, worries, and fears that are clouding our mind and prevent us from living life to our fullest potential. Letting go allows our energy to flow like a river, softening and dissolving even the hardest things blocking our path.
So we decided to share this letting go exercise to help you free your energy. By burning away the past, you can free yourself from any regret, failure, sorrow, or pain, and look forward to a brighter future. Let the burning ceremony empower you to let go, allow you to sense a feeling of closure, and move on.
You will need the following:
A quiet space and time to write in peace;
You will need scrap paper (not a journal) and pen or pencil ;
A timer (If time is limited);
A safe place to burn paper – best either in a fireplace or outside but can be in a fire proof bowl.
Letting go helps us address the issues with courage and gives us strength and energy to make clear decisions and take action.
How to steps below:
Set a timer for at least 2 mins;
Set your intentions: When your intentions are clear and focused, you can determine what you want out of this ceremony. You can write down your feelings and intentions so you are more open and ready for release.
I am peaceful
I am grounded
I let go of attachments
I find peace when I let go
Find a quiet place, light a relaxing candle, use oils, incense or herbs, tear up some paper, and grab a writing utensil.
Set a timer for at least 15 mins;
Start writing by answering the following question that resonate with you :
What will you no longer allow or accept?
What do you need to stop?
What excuses are you making?
What emotions are weighing you down?
What failures or regrets are pulling on you?
What’s bothering me?
What groups only take your energy and does not provide you joy, peace, or fulfillment?
What obligations should you have said “no” to - yet a scarcity mindset kept you from referring them to someone else?
Who are you ready to release from your life?
Who never seem to find a supportive word for you and your dreams?
Who sucks the life out of you every single time you’re together?
Which parts of me (emotions, moods, needs) are out of alignment when there is tension or conflict between me and others?
What event/pattern has been repeating itself in your life lately?
Where do you currently feel stuck?
What do you currently feel is holding you back?
What has happened recently that has left the deepest mark in you?
What does this pain-point tell you?
When have you last been through/felt something similar, and what does that tell you?
What is the real reason why you are avoiding things?
Which of you core beliefs are you disrespecting by not acting in alignment with your deepest desires?
What is one thing you have noticed that is preventing you from progressing?
Is there anything else standing in the way of you owning your power and being your best self?
Asking any kind of deep questions will always lead you somewhere good. You will see certain topics and patterns coming up, and that will give you a good idea of where to focus.
Let emotions surface; while listening to the rhythm of the breath and the beat of your heart just silently see what bubbles up;
Write non-stop and clear out everything that swirling around in your head on the paper; You don’t need to write in complete sentences or with proper grammar;
Don’t censor yourself: You can even swear, scribble and/or draw pictures;
Push yourself to write more than you are comfortable;
When you are done, writing - read your answers out loud; writing them is one thing but speaking your words is so powerful!
Pause let the words you read resonate, letting all the emotions you’ve been holding come to the surface, bubble over and flow down your hands and onto the paper sticking like glue to the paper;
Breathe deeply; with each exhale feel your body releasing... and let go, let go, let go
Then in a safe place, 🔥burn each slip paper as a symbolic release🔥- focusing on releasing your grip on whatever you wrote;
If you can’t burn the paper safely, tear it up in tiny pieces and flush it down the toilet;
You may even want to say the following affirmation as you burn or shred the paper: “I release the thoughts that no longer serve me or help me in reaching my highest potential. I call in abundance and positivity for the months ahead.”
Take a moment to relax and fill your mind and heart with thoughts & feelings that uplift you; Send peace, love and healing to anyone named in your answers.
Celebrate the end of the burning ceremony with the acknowledgment that you have closed the door on a part of your life that brought you sorrow and negativity. When you’re ready to end the ceremony - simply close out by saying: “ I willing release all dis-ease from my body, soul, and mind, and welcome myself to relax, relax, relax! Opening my heart and my mind to receive all that’s being offered, releasing all blocks and liberating myself to flow freely. I’m so happy and grateful for each new breath and all the opportunities it brings. The past is over. I NOW begin a new life.”
Breathe three deep breaths then let the pace of your breath settle where it feels right;
Take some time to rest, relax and recharge after and fill your mind and heart again with positivity and gratitude.
Take a Full/New Moon Bath/Shower and let the water wash what you released away. If you take a bath use salt and soothing essential oils. Read a spiritually uplifting book, drink a hot cup over herbal tea, massage warm oil or lotion into your skin, play calming music, meditate, go to bed early and/or do any other self-nourishing activity. As letting go is STILL hard, especially when our emotions feel justified and important. When we have a deep emotional attachment to an event or circumstance in our life and we’re being asked to let it go, it can often feel like we’re being asked to move on and forget about the past, person, or event that we’re deeply connected to. Letting go is not about ignoring a problem or becoming apathetic. Far from it. It is about acknowledging and embracing our emotions and digesting them in a way that is constructive, healthy and action-oriented.
This exercise may be uncomfortable at first as it requires us to acknowledge all the things that are unsaid that weigh heavy in your mind and heart and all the things we tend to ignore and hide, perhaps even from ourselves. But you will soon see how freeing this work can be and you will feel lighter and better afterward, especially when done regularly. This letting-go exercise really works for releasing stresses and worries, but be patient. It may take a few hours or days to feel better and lighter; Do this exercise once a month for emotional maintenance and/or as often as needed.
Whatever your ritual is, may you find peace, blessings, and appreciation for who, what, when & where you currently are! 🌟🌕 and may it launch 🚀 you into conscious action with a clean, clear state of mind to make clear decisions, with courage and strength and to focus on what’s been on your heart to create! 🔥
Ultimately, we hope you take some time to focus on what lights you up, ignites your soul, fires you up, and motivates you to feel alive and enjoy life to the fullest!
Although personal for your reading pleasure and ideas, here are some of the items I wrote to release:
Note: the more specific you can get in your writing, the more likely you are to have gotten to the core of the block/problem/weight and able to truly let it go. The truth is that we know more about ourselves than we think. The thing is, most of this knowledge is usually hidden in a rarely accessible part of our mind: our subconscious. Remember you can NOT hide from yourself; it knows the truth. So sometimes this excise is like an onion and it takes a few times of pealing back the layers to get to the center, but each time you will get closer and closer. So have patience.
Pro Tip: find an object you can keep with you throughout the day that will keep this release in the forefront of your mind. Carry this item (i.e. rock, coin, etc) around in your pocket, leave it on your desk where you will see it throughout your day, or even wear it on a chain around your neck or your wrist. Whenever you see it or touch it, pause to think about at least one thing you are GRATEFUL for being liberated from by the burning ceremony. Remember this is where you unleash the power within (so don’t skip this critical part): You and only you have the power to guide you to the conscious actions needed to create what you desire. You already know the solutions to the block/problem/weight; deep inside, you already know what to do. You just need to learn how to access that knowledge. When you take the item out of your pocket or off of your body at the end of the day, take a moment to remember the things that you need to let go of throughout the day and REMEMBER to ask yourself those questions you wrote down. Digesting these blocks in a way that is constructive, healthy and action-oriented. When you put it on or in your pocket again in the morning, repeat this process to remember what you are you grateful for moving on from, what no longer serves you that you have willing released.
The Result Not only will this help you remember the things you need to change, but also it can trigger mindfulness in your day, releases you from what's weighing you down, frees your energy and liberates the mind for better decision making and conscious actions. It will bring you out of your head and into the present moment, giving you something to focus your attention on. It can also act as a switch to more positive thinking. When you flip this switch multiple times a day, you will likely find that your average day has become much more positive. Remember what you are thinking about you are bringing about! Remember the three things that will change your life the most is the ability to “SEE IT” (what's the block, what do you need to let go of), “BELIEVE IT” (agree that letting it go and moving on is best), & “ACT ON IT”(burn it, flip the script, change the pattern, acknowledge what needs to change and take action to make it happen)! Keeping the reminder with you and doing this exercise each day will naturally allow you to do all three and transform your life. Here at Stretch Beyond Impossible, we believe in equipping people with the structure and tools necessary to live a life of balance and fulfillment. Our mission is to empower others to overcome everyday obstacles, experience everyday wins, realizing that you have everything you need within, to create the life you desire!! Often times trouble letting go, goes hand and hand with other aspects of your life. Take a FREE Well-Being Assessment to determine what areas to focus on first. None of us are perfect, we start where you currently are, let's setup a meeting to customize a plan to suit your needs, and create an action plan that takes you from where you are right NOW to where you WANT to be!!!