Remember: "Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it."
Empowering others to create the life they desire, to find comfort in their own skin, and gain the healthy mindset to be truly present in the moment and enjoy all that life has to offer, is the most rewarding and fulfilling thing I have ever done. All that said, there are so many people affected but the current state of affairs, so it seems inappropriate to talk about an ideal life when so many people are fighting to just survive right now. However, I have found the opposite to be true and found it important to share. It's our dreams and the glimmer of hope that keeps us going and pushing through the hard stuff. If we focus on "just enough" we get caught in the loop of barely making it. So if you desire change, something better, or for things to improve - then you have to focus on creating a healthy mindset. You can't win life if you're losing in your mind. Change your thoughts and you will change your life.
Here are my tips to creating a Healthy Mindset:
Have Compassion- Focus less on how you compare to others or whether you are right or wrong. Don't judge others as you don't know their view point or what they are dealing with. Set your realistic expectations for others and yourself. One of the biggest contributors to an unhealthy mindset is lack of companion towards yourself. Be kind to yourself and practice self-care, if you are not running optimally how are you going to have what you need to overcome?!?
Stay Calm - Calmness comes when you bring awareness to what's happening (Your surroundings) and yourself (what's you're thinking and feeling). The ability to calm your mind when you're under pressure is crucial to having the most rational thoughts and actions and making the most rational decisions.
Have Clarity - Don’t make a bad situation worse by expanding it in your mind. Get clear on your priorities, goals, and values to help remove the overwhelm that comes from uncertainty. Having a clear idea of what's important to you is key in dealing with indecision and unprecedented uncertainty.
Stay Focused - My focus is on solutions not stumbling blocks. Concentration is about commitment and dedication to yourself and the results you desire. If your goal is survival, don't focus on failure or catastrophizing. Don't let fear hold you back! F.E.A.R.—false evidence appearing real—occurs when we worry. We release stress hormones that make worse case scenarios feel real. Our perception IS our reality. Keep your focus on your goals and what's important to you, rather than distractions from outside sources. Refuse to allow the things you can't control to impact the things you can control.
Have Courage - Life isn't always fair and many times not easy but I can tell you the only way I have gotten to where I am today is by not letting negativity rob my energy and focus on what I can control and letting go of everything that I can’t. Put your energy into figuring out solution or how to make things better. Have the courage to be imperfect, to make mistakes, and to do your best on the darkest days. Imperfect action, will always be better than perfect inaction. Perfectionism can often lead to paralyzing procrastination. When you procrastinate and avoid taking action, you stay stuck in the same place, which is most often where we don't want to be. So have the courage to get out of your comfort zone. Do it scared, do it afraid, but find the courage to take action even when you don't feel ready. So making excuses. Take personal responsibility moving away from defensive responses, excuses and blaming and instead really focusing on, ok that occurred but what can I learn from it.
Embracing obstacles as the way, is key. Taking personal responsibility for your life is what shapes your future, even if out of your control, you can control how you react and respond to the uncontrollable, shapes my future. Life doesn’t happen TO YOU, it happens through YOU. You decide how to react to every situation, you can learn & grow from it, or let it break you down and hold you back. This was a Game Changer for me, realizing that ultimately it was ME, that had to be accountable for my thoughts, behaviors, words and actions, which made me responsible for creating the life I wanted. I couldn’t blame someone else for the outcome, there was no victims. Each failure puts you one step closer to a triumph. Once you are willing to take responsibilities for your actions, that's when you start to gain control for your life and where it is going. Don't fall prey to victimhood, stand up and fight for what you want, you are worth it!!! So wake up and take control of your life... don’t let it pass you by.
Often we wallow in our current situation, change is scary and fear is a powerful deterrent. Don’t allow the uncontrollable to impact the things you can control. But if you map out the things you want in life, and embrace the changes required to met your goals, you will be unstoppable. Every heard “Where there is a will, There is a way”. It’s most likely on the other side of your comfort zone. So stretch yourself, personal growth can be painful, but it reaps great rewards. Inspire yourself to keep striving to be the best version of yourself. Stick to this and you will come out of all of this stronger than before... let’s make positivity more contagious than this virus.
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